Welcome to the RLP Family

ADVICE WE RECEIVED FOR OUR MARRIAGE THAT HAS HELPED US​

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• "Your spouse is not your enemy, they are your partner." - No one is perfect. There will be times when your spouse says or does something that hurts you. There will be times we genuinely feel like they are doing something to purposely upset us. This advice has helped keep us from harboring bitterness towards one another when those moments come. Life also brings seasons of difficulty and challenge. This advice has helped us maintain open communication instead of taking out our frustrations on one another. 

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• "You can always get another job, but you cannot always get your spouse back." Being career driven isn't bad, ambition in the workplace is a great thing. However, when we said our wedding vows, we made a commitment to one another not one another's careers or financial status. It sounds like a no brainer, but the weight of financial stress is all too real. For some people, their career path is a really important part of who they are. It's so important to keep open communication with one another when it comes to work and make decisions together. This makes your spouse feel included and protects you bother from becoming bitter towards one another over time. 

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• "Avoid accusing your spouse of 'Always' and 'Never' doing something."  Here are two examples: “You never consider my feelings.” or “We always do what you want to do.” If I'm being honest, these two words slip out of my mouth way more than David's. These two words are absolutes that can leave your spouse feeling unappreciated and unrecognized of the efforts they make. They also come across as entitled and disrespectful. When these words are used, it's easy to take offense but it's more helpful to equate them to an alarm. They could be symbolizing that your spouse is trying to express a deeper frustration or hurt that would be helpful for you to both talk through. 

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